Posted: 01 November 2009 at 9:19pm | IP Logged

How is it best handled when there are conflicting rules between households. My ex-wife has my daughter most of the time, I get to see her on weekends and every once in a while during the week. My ex has always been really hot tempered, I on the other hand am a very mellow, mild tempered person. My daughter (13) behaves at my house with no problems, she has always been a "daddys girl", she does as I ask and we have a wonderful relationship. On the other hand, my ex-wife uses screaming, & whipping with whatever item she can get her hand on to decipline her. For punishment, she keeps her away from me on weekends that are supposed to mine, or calls her home early and cuts my weekends short. My ex is just now re-marrying and he is doing the same to my daughter. My daughter hates living there, but I am single and work really crazy hours, so I dont know what I could do even IF I could get full custody. It is a very mentaly abusive home, but when I confront her about it, she just treats our daughter that much worse. I have mentioned therapy, but she says she is not the problem so she refuses to go. What can I do? The more I confront her on the environment at her house, the worse my little girls life becomes. We have been divorced for 6 years and I have not gotten to have my daughter even once for Christmas.

p.s. I pay my child support on time every month.

Posted: 16 November 2009 at 2:39am | IP Logged

I feel bad for you and your daughter!  Since you said you have crazy hours, is there a way you could afford a nanny? someone that pick your daughter at school etc. This way you could spend time with your daughter when you get home.  Or just a babysitter that would be very relable for you and your daughter.

Need to figure this out if you decide to take your ex to court. Have this all sorted out. Your daughter shouldn't be in this situation with her mother and step[dad.

Good luck, I hope everything well work out for you.